Real education is painful

11 years old. First day of summer, early morning. My dad comes in. “Sit down let’s have a talk” (Somethings up)

‘Your mother and I bought some land – and you’re going to help me build a house.’ He scoots closer. ‘Stop what you’re doing, get dressed, and meet me out at the truck in ten minutes.’

It wasn’t sinking in. (How could it)

He leaves, I go back to video games. He comes back in ten minutes.

‘Why aren’t you ready?’ His voice stern

‘I’m not doing that’. I was shaking

He took a full fucking minute, then slowly ‘You’re going to get dressed and walk out to the truck, or I will drag you.’

By this point I was crying. I knew he would. I got dressed.

My education had begun.

The desire to be great -> finiteness of time -> an empty calendar

The desire to be great is in all of us in some form. Good things happen when we acknowledge that. Even better things happen when we couple it with acceptance of finiteness.

Some humans before us were great, and now it’s our turn. Soon the pressure will be on the humans that come after us.

Anybody that tells you they don’t want to be great at some point at something, is not seeing the bigger picture. They aren’t seeing how little time they have, how little time you have.

The value of time increases exponentially for everyone. It starts out slow, painfully even. Remember the checkout line when you were a little kid? Or waiting for popcorn to pop in the microwave? It took forever, and we couldn’t wait to be on to the next thing.

Now, we set relationship/personal/business goals for 2019, July, This week, Friday, and the time races away from us.

So, let the desire to be great ultimately lead you to the realization that there’s too much stuff in our calendars, too much noise.

Life/time are slowed by cutting things out, not adding to.

Mistaking knowledge for action

It’s a shame we used to be all about business, all go go go.

It’s a wonderful thing to realize that stopping time and living are the ultimate riches, not cranking out 65+ hours per week in our profession.

What’s the best way to stop time? To live more in the minutes and hours we are allotted? Making meditation part of our days.

The trick is to treat every act throughout our day as meditation.

The magic to make that happen is beginning and ending our days with meditation (whatever that looks like for you).

Easy concept, and most effective actions are.

Anonymous Account Packaging

Packages are a funny thing. We enjoy packages and how shiny they are, and anyone who says otherwise is lying to themselves about how special they are.

The package that we bring online is powerful. We are putting ourselves in a box/avatar and saying “this is me.” We might think that, but it’s our presentation of us, not us. However, on a long enough timeline, anyone can learn a great deal about us by our words and actions. Comments, likes, follows, etc tell a story.

An anonymous account, of course, is different. Not “this is me”, but “this is like me.” It’s an attempt to hide.

Either way, we package ourselves to the best of our ability. One problem though: our packaging loses it’s shiny color and becomes transparent through action and time.

Online and offline are blending. I’ll tackle that another time.

PS- thank you for reading my posts. I see the traffic, and I take it seriously. All comments welcome on twitter or here.

Taking vs Receiving

There’s no getting, because we are not in control. There’s receiving, because of what is given back to us. We might think we are taking, but we are only receiving.

It’s like getting asked to sit at the head of the table because we gave so much to the family, the community. We didn’t do it to sit at the head of the table, we did it because it’s what we do.

And what an honor it is.

Forget the taking or the receiving.


The Only Hack I Know

Of course life is difficult sometimes. That’s one of the great truths: life is difficult.

Humans are funny though. We aren’t logical, and we don’t follow many paths that are set before us. We determine our own meaning for success, then follow it the best we can. (And that’s different for many people)

The fun part is knocking our own illogical selves sideways for a positive outcome.

The next time life gets difficult, say to yourself “This is easy.”

The magic happens when we expand on that. “This is so easy, I eat problems like this for breakfast!” And keep going. It sounds corny, but it has helped me in the past and I hope it helps you.

“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult.

M Scott Peck

Taking Others Seriously

The disconnect between you and them is so small that you couldn’t slide a dollar in-between if you tried. You’re THAT close.

So, if you don’t take yourself seriously then you won’t take them seriously. Then why do we provide half worked things? You’re you, and you deserve the best. So do they.

One thing we can ask ourselves more often: “Am I proud of this work?”